Saturday, April 4, 2009

Cloth Diapering

So E.M. and I have discussed the pros and cons to cloth diapers vs. disposable. We have been pretty set on cloth diapering for a couple of months now... I was origionally turned on to the idea while looking up exclusively breastfeeding our children.



One of the goals we have for raising our children is to raise them earth-conscious and as green as possible. We want our children to conserve, reuse, recycle, and regenerate. Niether of us grew up this way but since being together have both worked hard on all of this (Shutting water off while brushing teeth, reusing plastic bags, cleaning ziploc baggies and reusing, refilling jugs of water as well as water bottles, etc).

All of this combined made me think of cloth diapering. I began to really "search" for a good cloth diaper a couple months back, no real intense searching... however it seemed everything I found that had received good reviews on ease of use and cleaning we had to buy multiple sizes of and they were pricey! I read on a few different sites it is best to have 12 to 24 diapers if not more when you come home from the hospital with baby! That's a lot when you think that they come in sooo many sizes not to mention you don't (for sure) know if your baby will be 5 lbs or 12 lbs! You could spend 200$ on diapers that won't fit 2 weeks after your child begins to use them!
So I started looking for a solution and I found one! Well...I found two...


The first one I found are "Babie Boomer" diapers, one size fits newborn through toddler.... they adjust with snaps. Interesting. So I was pretty happy with this choice, the price seemed fair, etc. I bookmarked the below link in my "baby" folder and went on with researching breastfeeding.




So the other day I was scrolling through videos on youtube.com and I found a different one-size cloth diaper!!! This one made me feel like I can DEFINITLEY cloth diaper!


They are bumGenius 3.0! They are beyond neat and there are videos on youtube about them, they received excellent ratings in ease, cleaning, and no leaking! Also with the velcrow you can maintain a better fit than with the snaps!
So I believe those are the ones we have settled on....E.M. even watched a video on them and agreed that they look simply enough! :)

So as most everyone knows by now we are planning to stay in our 1 bedroom apartment.... the only concern we have had this far concerning that is reguarding laundry; especially with cloth diapers (understandably).

Well we no longer are concerned ...I remembered a few years ago a friend mentioned a small washer.... suitable for apartments, no hook ups required because it hooked to a sink head! I had looked at these previously, for our clothes however most of them were very very pricey and did not get good reviews with a load of adult clothes therefore I simply forgot about them. Anyway I was looking for one.... and I found one for under 100$. :)

It is small, only holds 2.2lbs of clothes and will sit on the bathroom counter!
It looks like an egg, doesn't it?!

Link to the "egg" washer:




So since we found the washer aspect that way we can wash the diapers as often as needed without trudging to the laundry room 12 times a day (okay, maybe that's an exageration! Or not.) we had to find a solution for drying them. Origionally I was thinking we could buy a retractable clothes line from walmart for 15$ and mount it on our front porch and call it a day... however the more I look at the prices of the diapers the less appealing this sounds... the last thing I want to worry about is the diapers walking off to a neighbors home! >.<>
So this is how we plan to cloth diaper our baby....any suggestions or tips are appreciated! :)
(We are very excited about the opportunity to do this so please don't spoil it with rude comments about diapering).
-Jess


Baby Dream

So we went to sleep at about 11pm so that we could make a good day out of our saturday.
Fantastic, so we fall asleep and now I am awake at 4:26 am.

I had the best dream ever and I wanted to log it here ...we heard "the" babies heartbeat. And we saw the little bean on the monitor. I was mezmerized, I laid on the bed in pure shock, staring at my baby and listening to the sweet, sweet sound of her little heart. E.M. was at my side smiling and holding my hand.

That is all for this morning... :)

"In this life there really are more questions than answers...... maybe it's that way to keep us on our toes!"



-Jess

Friday, April 3, 2009

The Most Fantastic...


...changing table ...ever.

Perfect for our 1 bedroom apartment that we plan on taying in until baby is 2 years old since cosleeping is a mandatory yes for us anyway, no need to go out and rent a new place, pay to move, redecorate and pay for a nursery to be put together.
(If you are interested here's the link to it on the Ikea website: http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/70012146)

This changing table is incredible -- it mounts on the wall and folds up and down for easy (less bulky) use! We are going to mount it in our bedroom to the left of the walk way beside the closets and place a 4 drawer dresser in the closet we currently use as storage.... just needs to be cleaned out and condensed and placed into storage shed! :)


And to document for a later time...
http://www.promom.org/101/ (101 reasons to breastfeed....not that we have ever thought we wouldn't but hey, it's nice to see what our child will gain from exclusively breastfeeding!)
-Jess and E.M.

A Cartoon That Puts TTC In To Perspective...


Trying With Donor

So E.M. and I have discussed this.... my cycle seems fine now that it started and I am no longer ill. And we've spoken with a male friend who identifies as Gay - I have known him for years.... probably at least 6 and E.M. met him through me when we got together. Anyway, he was our first donor last year when we miscarried the first time. He still wants to give us a child and we feel that as long as my cycle is decent and I ovulate properly we don't see an issue in atleast attempting a pregnancy this cycle.

We of course are not at all expectin it to "stick" however we can't see turning him down because he is genuine and we have asked him multiple times in the past to help us and he has never once hesitated. He is a great guy and we figure if it is meant to be then that's fantastic, if not then we will start insemination with frozen specimens in May as planned.

So E.M. spoke to him yesterday morning after....or maybe it was before... I don't recall... we mailed the paperwork in for the 'bank'. E.M. was just giving him a heads up on probable ovulation date... which is the 16th - so we will start OPK's on the 12th unless I show more vivid signs of fertility before then, which as I mentioned who knows -- this cycle has been a mess! :(

Anyway we are planning to do OPK's in the evenings about 7p (After dinner) and then pick him up the morning following a positive and have breakfast and do an insem around 8a followed by a lovely day of r&r and lots of movies and talking and laughing.... then dinner and another insem and at 8p. -- depending on the night E.M. will take him home and head to work or come back and spend more time with me. :)

So that is this months plan.

Other than that I am making lists of things we need to do in the first 2 trimesters (ha! mainly just reorganie and pack our "possessions")


-Jess and E.M.

Random Information on TTC

Just information I don't want to lose; if you are ttc it may be useful for you too! :)

"Ovulation Predictor Kits [OPKs] are a great way to maximize your chances of conception, says Dr Sussman. These will help to quickly and accurately detects the increase in luteinizing hormone in your urine (LH Surge), which normally occurs 24 to 36 hours before ovulation. You are most likely to become pregnant if you have intercourse within 36 hours after you detect your LH surge. "


-Jess and E.M.

Thursday, April 2, 2009

A Single Cab Truck

Our vehicle is going to remain a truck until the beginning of 2011 at the earliest; so until the child is almost a year of age.


This is the only real obstacle we've encountered however after some hunting and sifting through a lot of websites I believe we have come up with the solution!



We are taking the truck in in my 3rd tri. to have both air bags disabled until we sell it.

We chose the carseat to the right. Its safety approved, side crash tested, and is for rear facing 5 to 35 lbs..... front facing 35 to 100lbs!!! We are happy with this choice as it fits very nicely in the center seat without making the gear shift inaccessible.

The reason this seat is a good choice for a single cab bench seat truck is because the base is small and lifts the wide seat up allowing the parents to access their seat belts! We are happy with this choice. It is a safe choice as the number one reason children aren't suppose to be in the front seat is due to air bags. Thankfully, we have figured out how to take them out through the dealership!

Anyone who has a single cab truck with a bench seat should definitley do your homework but it is definitley possible to make it work!



-Jess and E.M.

The First 2 Expenses....Of Many!!

0.10 cents - Legible copy of drivers licence.
$1.17 - Stamp for envelope weighing 2.80 oz!

So far the baby making process has cost us $1.27!!
(Excluding prenatals, of course!)


We sent the little parcel off containing all the paper work at 9:59:14am this morning!
We are thrilled!

And then when we arrived home and I pondered through my email I noticed the 'bank' had replied to my earlier sent email asking roughly how long it would take to process the paperwork!

All paperwork is opened and filed in the order it arrives ...ours should be there Saturday... but they are closed on weekends (the office is anyway) so they will receive it Monday morning! We are hoping to order our indepth profiles for the weekend of pride! (17th and 18th!) Along, of course, with the pictures and all.

On another note I am on a fantastic board on thenest.com and I posted about the 'bank' earlier (last night, if memory serves me correctly). The ladies on this board pointed out that we may not want to buy such a large amount of sperm (12 vials) at once but rather buy a smaller clump, say 3, and leave the money in an interest bearing account to earn us more baby-making money! What a fantastic idea! I hadn't even thought of this! They went on to explain that some couples need to change or want to change donors for one reason or another. I think that's a good idea, and so does E.M. - So there it is... we will purchase and store 3 vials of sperm which is 3 cycles.. at which point we are praying to the good Lord above to have a BFP!!!!!

Keep us in your prayers while we attempt to not lose our little minds with anticipation while we wait for the paperwork to be received and properly filed!!!!

-Jess and E.M.

All Set

So we chose our 4 default donors.

1st choice - Caucasian/German/Hispanic
Black Hair, Green Eyes, 5'9", 155lbs.
Educated In: Sociology, Criminology
Enjoys: fly tying and fishing, shooting, scuba diving, working with his hands (models)
Past pregnancy reported.
No history of fertility problems in family.
CMV -


2nd choice - British/French/German/Swiss/and Irish.
Blonde Hair, Blue Eyes, 6'0", 180lbs.
Educated In: Business Administration
Enjoys: golf, basketball, tennis, guitar, singing, and reading.
No past pregnancy reported.
No history of fertility problems in family.
CMV -


3rd choice - Dutch, German, Scottish
Blonde Hair, Hazel Eyes, 5'8", 150lbs
Educated In: Economics
Enjoys: Volunteer philanthropic work, fraternity, running, biking, cooking, backpacking
Past pregnancy reported.
No history of fertility problems in family.
CMV +


4th choice - Danish, French
Blonde Hair, Blue Eyes, 5'11, 183lbs.
Educated In: Social Sciences
Enjoys: Playing football, skiing, scuba diving, running, climbing.
No past pregnancy reported.
CMV +


We are mailing the paper work in the morning; first class, rush, 2 day. The same way they mail everything.
Once our paperwork is properly filed we are going to order the extensive profiles on the first 2 and pictures for both, we will make our decision from there. I do believe we would have stuck with only the 2 but had we left the other 2 spots empty our paperwork wouldn't have been filed! :(
Good news is we genuinely like all 4 so any of them will work for us!!! :)
Now we just have to narrow it down; a hard feat without more information on health, personality, and of course looks! :)

Side note: I wish we could buy photos of both sets of grandparents (even if it was a photo from when they were in their early 20's) since children normally take after grandparents more so than "parents". Hmmmm.

Ok that's all for now, I shall post when we mail it!!!!


-Jess and E.M.

Wednesday, April 1, 2009

Paperwork...and Donors!

I think we are drowning in both paperwork and donors.

We have ALL paperwork filled out and in it's pretty yellow envelope on the dining room table and now ...we wait, we contimplate... we bargain and compromise with eachother.... all the while trying to pick out 4 "default" donors that are required to process the paperwork. I believe that this is put in place bcause the registration process itself with the bank we have chosen is free! A huge plus in our oppinions.
So we have chose one donor - black hair, green eyes, 5'9". :)

Three to go :sigh:

Oi Vey.

-Jess and E.M.

Introduction

This is my first blog in a long time, outside of the blogs I write to track the updates I do on the "family" site.

I plan to update this as news changes, as things happen, mainly to document for E.M. and I's family-to-be (our children to come) what we went through to get them.

We are a loving and committed couple who are beginning a family. We are currently filling out paperwork for a sperm bank in Washington State and after that goes through we plan to start trying for a baby in May of this year.

We are thrilled at the ease in which the process seems to be (obtaining sperm from this bank). We have looked at many other banks and they seem so complicated, this one doesn't seem to be that way. We printed the paper work this afternoon and began to fill it out before E.M. headed to work.

We were origionally going to go with a free-AI donor vs a bank but after meeting with multiple men who were "willing" we felt it was best (mainly most responsible and safe) to simply purchase the sperm from a bank.

I (Jess) will be carrying the child and we have been charting my ovulation (not temping) and I will start using OPK's this month so I have a better idea in May when to ask the bank to ship us our "frozen possibilities".

More to come. :)